tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6408579395752156780.post1984809218660577158..comments2024-03-09T11:29:48.585+00:00Comments on Flowerpot Days: Overload and InfidelityFlowerpothttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14102679179201725732noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6408579395752156780.post-29085576902754518452007-09-14T09:16:00.000+01:002007-09-14T09:16:00.000+01:00ak - my thoughts entirely. Marriage is hard work! ...ak - my thoughts entirely. Marriage is hard work! <BR/><BR/>laurie - very tempting to have told him EXACTLY why you were giving him the cold shoulder - but I always think of the right thing to say at 3am the next morning, never at teh right time.<BR/><BR/>MissU - you have a very good point. At what cost?<BR/><BR/>dee - I wouldn't want that type of relationship - I wouldnt be able to trust them.<BR/><BR/>What a lot of food for thought!Flowerpothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14102679179201725732noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6408579395752156780.post-90103294001914737522007-09-14T08:21:00.000+01:002007-09-14T08:21:00.000+01:00I don't understand open marriages either. And as o...I don't understand open marriages either. And as others have commented, it sounds like hard work to me! Maintaining my one relationship is difficult enough at times ;)<BR/>I'd certainly be interested to hear how couples who practice 'open marriage' are doing this.. I mean really, the practicality of this, and how to 'not be jealous' at the other man or woman.Danielehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17255763516507357558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6408579395752156780.post-37033899052838328632007-09-14T07:44:00.000+01:002007-09-14T07:44:00.000+01:00I can understand the concept of an open marriage, ...I can understand the concept of an open marriage, but not the huge emotional sacrifice they must have to make in order for it to be succesful.Elaine Denninghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10640829930815645105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6408579395752156780.post-85635752994624249812007-09-13T23:22:00.000+01:002007-09-13T23:22:00.000+01:00no, he never did. he came up to me weeks later an...no, he never did. he came up to me weeks later and asked why i was giving him the cold shoulder. i felt too embarrassed by the whole thing to tell him. so i smoothed it over. but yean, men can be so clueless sometimes.lauriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18055442432266567561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6408579395752156780.post-78927663896338402472007-09-13T18:16:00.000+01:002007-09-13T18:16:00.000+01:00I've never been able to understand people being ma...I've never been able to understand people being married if they want to shag other people, why not just stay single?Akelamaluhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11234268568845148285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6408579395752156780.post-49678008575033806122007-09-13T17:32:00.000+01:002007-09-13T17:32:00.000+01:00laurie - what a jerk! Did he ever realise what you...laurie - what a jerk! Did he ever realise what you'd actually meant? Probably not...Flowerpothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14102679179201725732noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6408579395752156780.post-52756270429953045282007-09-13T17:31:00.000+01:002007-09-13T17:31:00.000+01:00correspondent - I quite agree, and I don't even ha...correspondent - I quite agree, and I don't even have children! If Himself felt he did, he'd be out on tnhe doorstep quicker than you could say Out!Flowerpothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14102679179201725732noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6408579395752156780.post-81734704540922576902007-09-13T17:14:00.000+01:002007-09-13T17:14:00.000+01:00i truly never want to date again.i'm happy being b...i truly never want to date again.<BR/>i'm happy being boring and monogamous. i remember having a conversation (years and years ago) with a colleague about affairs.<BR/><BR/>i said, naively, "i don't understand how people HAVE affairs. you're married, she's married, how do you approach? i just don't get it."<BR/><BR/>and so you know what happened next: he hit on me! the jerk.<BR/><BR/>i didn't talk to him for months.<BR/><BR/>talk about missing the point.lauriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18055442432266567561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6408579395752156780.post-10245538619131887672007-09-13T15:19:00.000+01:002007-09-13T15:19:00.000+01:00I don't have the energy to keep up with one relati...I don't have the energy to keep up with one relationship, much less multiple relationships. And I'm afraid I would be exceptionally cranky if my husband felt he did. Isn't that why you stay with someone in the first place? So you can STOP looking??the rotten correspondenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02704525054720181936noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6408579395752156780.post-71591963506764541022007-09-13T15:14:00.000+01:002007-09-13T15:14:00.000+01:00lane - yes, life is quite complicated enough for m...lane - yes, life is quite complicated enough for me! And yes, glad to say subconscious has finally allowed me to get a good few hours work in. Relief!Flowerpothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14102679179201725732noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6408579395752156780.post-52980166932171403382007-09-13T14:53:00.000+01:002007-09-13T14:53:00.000+01:00Open marriage? Isn't life complicated enough alrea...Open marriage? Isn't life complicated enough already?<BR/><BR/>Hope your subconcious is working for you:))Lane Mathiashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08147122748453850264noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6408579395752156780.post-10216123821724366402007-09-13T14:05:00.000+01:002007-09-13T14:05:00.000+01:00chrish - I would have felt just like you did with ...chrish - I would have felt just like you did with Tom. Almost as bad for us because we feel so protective I think.<BR/><BR/>Liz - yes my subconscious is flitting like a butterfly!<BR/><BR/>Breadbox - yes, this happened before I met him. Don;t know that anyone would have been particularly flattered by this woman's attention - though she was very rich. That's where hes gone wrong!<BR/><BR/>Em - yes I agree about monogamy. And I can see your subconscious out here on my washing line!!Flowerpothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14102679179201725732noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6408579395752156780.post-46579305008473062912007-09-13T13:07:00.000+01:002007-09-13T13:07:00.000+01:00I don't really understand open relationships or op...I don't really understand open relationships or open marriage. I'm strictly monogamous, me - there is simply no way I could cope, emotionally or otherwise, with an additional lover! We have had hints from friends who swing but to be honest it just doesn't appeal. Once I've made a commitment to someone, that's it, I'm theirs. And no-one else's. <BR/><BR/>PS my subconscious has buggered off to Cornwall without me. This makes it somewhat tricky to do my job...*shrug*Emhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02796895769782012459noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6408579395752156780.post-56712671632169837172007-09-13T12:38:00.000+01:002007-09-13T12:38:00.000+01:00TMI Overload! TMI Overload![Grin] Funny story:-) ...TMI Overload! TMI Overload!<BR/><BR/>[Grin] Funny story:-) And this all happened before you met Himself, correct? Good on him.<BR/><BR/>N.BreadBoxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14551973313066578118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6408579395752156780.post-84939075389336038622007-09-13T12:10:00.000+01:002007-09-13T12:10:00.000+01:00I don't understand open marriages either...... nic...I don't understand open marriages either...... nice to see your subconcious come to the surface and laze about the garden :-)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02744937536946299450noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6408579395752156780.post-32698226912210384502007-09-13T11:53:00.000+01:002007-09-13T11:53:00.000+01:00Ooh-er! Well done to Himself for fighting her off...Ooh-er! Well done to Himself for fighting her off. No, I don't understand an open marriage either -but perhaps I'm just very possessive?<BR/>Thanks for being so encouraging about Tom's exhibition. I felt so sorry for him and wanted to round up anyone going passed and drag them in... now I must write too!Chris Stovellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03741359642268813093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6408579395752156780.post-10728816479736274332007-09-13T11:51:00.000+01:002007-09-13T11:51:00.000+01:00Good to meet you Hannah and glad someone else is h...Good to meet you Hannah and glad someone else is having prevarication problems! I quite agree about open marriages - I'd run a mile too. After all tehse comments about Nigella, I'm wondering who does like her?!!Flowerpothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14102679179201725732noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6408579395752156780.post-9528109622178603042007-09-13T11:33:00.000+01:002007-09-13T11:33:00.000+01:00I find it hard to understand the open marriage..is...I find it hard to understand the open marriage..isn't marriage all about commitment to one person, trust, etc. Hummm....I think I would run a mile if someone asked me - not that I should be so lucky, but you know what I mean?!<BR/><BR/>I'm supposed to be writing today aswell - weather's too nice and this blogging is much more fun! Don't you think? I'm sure my work rate has gone down... <BR/><BR/>P.s I can't stand Nigella these days and no green veg or slim-option in sight....sorry to hear about your hubbie's brave fight and also glad to hear that Bussie is almost back to his normal self!Hannah Veltenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11355099521026555461noreply@blogger.com