Tuesday, 6 September 2016

Facebook Memories


You know those Facebook reminders you get, telling you what happened X years ago?

The other day I got one reminding me that 5 years ago I scattered my husband’s ashes at Polly Joke. I remember it well - I went with my dear friend Deb, and we danced along the silky sand as the tide came in, and sent him on his way. Actually it was only part of him - I keep the other half here, in my bedroom, in a very fine biscuit tin.

To further honour his memory, we went for a drink afterwards - which is of course what he would have done - and toasted a very special, lovely man.

A few nights ago I dreamt about him. It was his birthday, and he refused to celebrate, but said he would do so the next day. This was and wasn’t true - he enjoyed any excuse to go to the pub, though he wasn’t so keen on celebrating the actual day.

He would have been 76 this year. There are so many things I would like to share with him, and I do still talk to him. When I’m worried he was good at sharing my problems. He would fiercely defend me when needed - though his mantra was always, “you must fight your own corner, Pop.” I would love him to know about the good things that have happened over the intervening years. About taking up sailing, and getting our own boat, which he would be most proud of.

His face smiles at me from the wall of my kitchen. It shines at me from the mantelpiece of the Seven Stars in Falmouth. And deep in my heart, there is a place entitled ‘My Pip’.

16 comments:

Frugal in Bucks said...

Nice words and happy memories. Xxx

Flowerpot said...

Thank you XX

Trubes said...

Ahrr FP I remember this event, RIP PIP,
Best wishes,
Di xx

Flowerpot said...

Tribes - happy memories XX

Trubes said...

Ha ha! Sue, you've just called me
'TRIBES'
Cheers,
Di xx.
PS> I'm so glad that you have happy memories.

Flowerpot said...

Di - sorry. Perhaps this is your new nickname!!

ADDY said...

This got to me and I understand entirely. The memory never fades, does it? I often talk to a picture of my other half on the study wall and tel him all what's been happening in the world.

Flowerpot said...

Addy - I find it does fade and then comes back with a boom. It's good to keep them up to date though! X

Melissa Marsh said...

I am so glad that you have such wonderful memories of him, Sue. :)

Flowerpot said...

There are some not so good memories as well, of course! I am a realist...!

Chris Stovell said...

Oh gosh, that's just made me cry! I feel for you x

Flowerpot said...

Chris - it's ok just part of having loved someone X

Annie said...

Your comments touched my heart. I too have danced your dance and you said it all perfectly. You could have been speaking of me and my husband. He is in a beautiful urn in our dining room, in a china cabinet we constructed together, which he loved so much. I speak to him every day...happily so. It's been 6 yrs. I am a strong woman going forward...and enjoying life. God bless you, Flowerpot !!

Flowerpot said...

Annie - thank you and very glad you are enjoying life too XX

Kim @ Him, Him Me said...

I remember Pips passing and the posts you wrote back then. They were poignant posts as I lost my Dad just over a month later and I knew I wasn't alone.
I talk to Dad all the time, whether its to the picture on the bookshelf, at his grave, which I visit rarely or in my heart. He still sorts my problems out, just as he did when he was here, my invisible faithful Dad!

The 5 years have flown by, although at the time I thought the first year would never end.

Flowerpot said...

Kim - I'm so glad your dad is with you still and sorting your problems out - how very lovely! X