Wednesday, 12 March 2008

Blind Dates

I have several friends who have tried internet dating. One of them (male) met several girlfriends on various sites, but none of the relationships turned out well. In fact one was a complete disaster.

Another friend tried it, and met some very strange characters. Well, I’m pretty strange, but some of them were decidedly not the kind of person you want your mate to get involved with.

One had psychiatric problems, one was running several women at the same time, all over the country (now that takes stamina) and I forget about the rest. They weren’t right for her.

Thankfully the above mentioned male is now happily married to a dear friend of mine and they are extremely happy.

My other above mentioned friend hasn’t found the person she wants to be with – yet. But who knows what’s round the corner? She’s about to start a new and exciting chapter of her life which will involve new challenges and meeting new people. The possibilities are endless.

I have another friend whose various marriages haven’t worked out. Both these women are intelligent, attractive and have a great sense of humour. They have different talents but I’m proud to be their friend. They are both dearly fond of Himself, which goes a long way in my book.

But they, and several other friends of mine, are single. Why?

If I knew more single men I’d organise a dating session, but I’ve been warned off by Himself. He introduced his brother to his last two wives and both of those marriages ended in unhappiness. So he says, “No, Flowerpot. Leave them alone.”

It’s tempting, though. So I thought I’d do a bit of cyber enquiring on their behalf.

Two men wanted. Must be in their late 50s/60s. Intelligent, GSOH, financially solvent. Preferably reasonably attractive. Must have wide interests, read a lot, enjoy walking for one; not walking for the other. No alcoholics, perverts, drug addicts or time wasters should apply. Oh, and must not be married or have any other women on the go. (What have I left out?)

So - any candidates out there?


Elaine Denning said...

No alcoholics, perverts or drug addicts. That's half of my friend list out the window then!

I put an ad in the paper once.

Milla said...

No, but I have a couple of lovely women to add to your list, because it does seem to be the sweetest ones left out, doesn't it. Don't get it. Let me know if you get any spare men, one of my women originates from Cornwall ...

Cornish Dreamer said...

Internet dating...I tried that once, it didn't work for me. But I wish you luck in finding someone for your friends :@)

Philipa said...

Himself gives good advice I think - consider if you introduced a friend to someone and they got hurt; bad men don't wear black hats and Ted Bundy was attractive and well educated. I'm sure I wouldn't try internet dating.

On being single: I don't understand why people think I have some kind of problem to be overcome because I'm single and not looking - they seem to ascribe some kind of psychological issue to the fact. I used to freely admit that I've been celibate for over 6 years but because of peoples reactions I stopped. I only publish this now because I think it wrong for society to cajole people into a relationship. Far better, I think, for society to think it perfectly acceptable to be single. I sincerely hope your friends don't give it a second thought and find all they need in friendship and their duties and interests. You can't hurry love.

Flowerpot said...

Missu - a friend of mine did that too. We had a hoot listening to the replies!

Milla - I will bear that in mind!

RT - no i'm dubuious about it as well.

Philipa - very wise words that I applaud. Absolutely nothing teh matter in being single if that's what suits you. These would rather not be. But I entirely agree - can't hurry love.

Anonymous said...

Sounds a bit like the Farmer. Apart from the fact that he's married of course!

Crystal xx

Akelamalu said...

Well MWM fulfills all your criteria but he's MINE!! ;)

Grump said...

Sorry Flowerpot I probably fit some of the criteria but not the crucial bits. Like I have a partner and 4 kids. I love a walk and I'm not an alcoholic. But there again I'm in Australia. I wish you all the best with your search.
How's the weather improving? Trips to St Levan Planned?
cheers Mark x

Flowerpot said...

Crystal - yes, I hope the Farmer is otu of the market!

Flowerpot said...

Ak - I'm glad he's already taken given that he's yours!

Grump - looks like you're well out of it also Mark! This weekend would be great for trip to St Levan but teh forecast is solid rain and I'd rather go when it's sunny. Will keep you posted though.

Helen Shearer said...

I wrote a story about internet dating for a competition a few years back called 'Freaks Need Not Apply'. I tried it for research purposes and met a lovely person but he wasn't right for me romantically. We still email a few times and week though, and we've become good friends. My best friend met the man she thought was her soulmate (don't you hate that word?) and flew to Australia to meet him only to discover that he wore sexier frilly knickers than she did. They're still friends but, needless to say, it didn't go any further. She did, however, meet her husband when she was there so it wasn't a complete loss.

Ellee Seymour said...

A girlfriend of mine runs a dating agency in East Anglia and has some very eligible men on her books. If they are interested, ask them to get in touch.